Morale blindspot...

What to do when a good friend's affair went south ?
You don't condone but friend's supposed to stay.

What to do..
What to do...

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Think about what your friend needs right now... and see if it is something you can give your friend.




That's just it... she needs something I can't give...




Perhaps you can find her someone who can ?




Not much information to go on here.
Relationships can be complicated but since you say it went south,
I assume you’ve discussed it with your friend?
Not sure why she would be “supposed to stay” in a bad situation…
but regardless, It might just be something she has to work through on her own.
Some things cannot be addressed from the outside,
especially if your friend hasn’t come to you for help.
That’s my opinion anyway
The way I see it,
about all you can do is continue to be a good friend
and be there if she needs you.

I used to visit my cousin after school almost everyday
The whole family argued constantly
I thought they all hated each other
and one day I make some smart remark
and she looks at me stunned and says…
“Why would I wish that? He’s my dad!”
I say “so you do love him?”
Of course she says as if I’d lost my mind.




I think besides me she got someone else to talk to. She got not too many choices though because of the shit she's in... grey soul like me.
*bitter smile*

Freddie's right on the money for wondering why she stay in that bad shape. It is the core of my problem. She is wrong. She knows it but she just won't let go.

So if I support her I'm a bad friend, but if I abandoned her I'm a worse friend. It's in a "toldya so..." domain you know ?
When You're right about something awful ?

*sigh*

But I guess technically it is NOT my problem. I just have to sit this one out...




A wise rabbi once told me
that sometimes when you see someone making mistakes
and you bring it to their attention
but they insist on continuing anyway
that it’s better step back a bit
because if you pressure too much
you can drive them even further in the opposite direction.
Sounds like the best thing to do
Perhaps, is approach it from that angle.
Like you said, don’t support or condone it
but don’t exorcise her either.
I don’t know how close you are to her
but it might be helpful to talk to the person
and find out what she feels she is gaining from the relationship.
Once she spells it out,
it might not be as wonderful as she thought.

Prayer might help too
but I’m not into the traditional prayer scene
Somehow I don’t think you are either
but if I bring my cosmic view out
this comment block could end up 500 pages
so we can just skip that for now, eh?
Good luck!

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